What is your value?

Christy Davis
Jul 27, 2021
4 min read

Luke 12:6-7 MSG - What’s the price of two or three pet canaries? Some loose change, right? But God never overlooks a single one. And he pays even greater attention to you, down to the last detail—even numbering the hairs on your head! So don’t be intimidated by all this bully talk. You’re worth more than a million canaries.

Isaiah 43:4 MSG - I paid a huge price for you: all of Egypt, with rich Cush and Seba thrown in! That’s how much you mean to me! That’s how much I love you! I’d sell off the whole world to get you back, trade the creation just for you.

I was driving home the other day craving a pina colada snow cone and as it always does the song Escape (The Pina Colada Song) by Rupert Holmes went through my mind. I started to sing it out loud. I would say because I was alone in my car, but that’s not true. I sing loud and off key no matter where I am. As I sang the lyrics, I got to the line, “If you like makin' love at midnight”, and I stopped. I was struck by how the terms for sex have changed so drastically since that song was written. Today’s generation would probably laugh at that term if it was used in a song today. Back in my day we had a youth minister try to make a point of how music was desensitizing us to sin and causing us to accept it as normal. The song he played was Faith by George Michael and unfortunately as he was playing it the entire youth group was singing along with it in our Sunday School room. I think we made his point for him. It really is a sad realization of how cavalier our culture has become about sex. Let me preface this conversation before you click the backspace button. This is not a passing judgement, oh you lowly sinner, REPENT, kind of post. Please do not tune me out until I have shared what is really in my heart.

What hurts my heart the most is how so many women are selling themselves short. They are settling for what they can get instead of seeking out and waiting for the best that God has for them. They are in relationships that they know deep in their heart are not what they want or need. Their desire to have some semblance of affection in their life outweighs the reality that they are not truly being loved with the respect that they deserve. Let’s face reality, some men are after one thing and have no clue how to truly love a woman the way she needs to be loved. I can say this with conviction because I know that truth from personal experience. When a woman of God settles for being with a man that has no desire or intention of ever marring her, that is settling for less than the best that God has for you. You are more than just flesh. You are made up of a body, a soul and a spirit and you deserve a man that can love every part of you, not just the part that gives him pleasure.

I was single until I was 38 years old and honestly, I settled a few times. Thankfully not on a permanent basis. I know the desperation you feel when you look around and you are the only one not coupled up, you’re pushing past 30-35 and still do not have a prospect. The loneliness can crush your soul at times. I get it! I can tell you with complete candor, when I hit 36-37 I did not want to hear one more person tell me, “be patient honey, the right one is out there you just have to wait for God to bring him to you”. It made me angry to hear people that were married when they were 21 tell me to be patient, no matter how true it was. I think 38 years is way past being patient!! 😊 However, now that I am on the other side of that waiting period and now that I have personally experienced being loved by the right man and in the right way, I can easily say it was worth the wait.

God sees you as a precious jewel that should be adored, protected, and loved beyond measure. The laws that God put in place in His scriptures are not there to keep us from having fun, they are there to protect us from pain and heartbreak. When scripture teaches us that a man should only be with one woman and sex should only be within the confines of marriage it is to keep us from the devastation of giving everything we have to someone and having our soul ripped out when they walk away because they weren’t the right one.

All of this really comes down to asking yourself these questions. What is your value? What do you think you are worth? Do you think you are worth being loved body, soul and spirit? Do you deserve someone that sees you as a cherished daughter of a king?

I think each of us, no matter our marital status, can ask these questions of ourselves. This concept can be applied to much more than just romantic relationships. I challenge you to say the following things out loud, with confidence and watch God’s spirit awaken these truths within you!